When your mind won't stop trying to figure everything out.
You replay conversations. Second-guess decisions you've already made. Think through every possible outcome—and somehow still don't feel certain.
From the outside, you may look capable, thoughtful, and completely on top of things.
Inside, it's exhausting.
ANXIETY THERAPY FOR WOMEN IN OAKLAND & THROUGHOUT CALIFORNIA
You already know you're overthinking. Knowing that doesn't always make it stop.
Maybe your mind rarely feels quiet.
You think about what you said, what you should have said, what someone else might be thinking, what could go wrong, and what you need to do to prevent it.
You may notice yourself:
replaying conversations long after they're over
second-guessing decisions you felt good about at first
worrying that someone is upset with you
thinking through every possible outcome before making a choice
putting enormous pressure on yourself to get things right
having trouble resting when there is still something you could be doing
knowing something probably isn't a big deal but still not being able to let it go
Sometimes you finally say what you think—and then spend the rest of the night wishing you'd kept it to yourself.
The anxiety isn't always obvious to everyone else. But you're spending a lot of energy managing it.
Anxiety isn't always about fear. Sometimes it's about trust.
When you don't quite trust yourself to know what to do—or to handle what happens if something goes wrong—thinking can start to feel like protection.
If I think about it long enough, maybe I'll make the right decision.
If I replay the conversation, maybe I'll figure out what they thought.
If I anticipate every possibility, maybe nothing will catch me off guard.
If I understand exactly why I feel this way, maybe I can make the feeling go away.
Your mind may be trying to create something none of us can actually have: certainty.
Therapy isn't about making you certain. It's about helping you trust yourself enough to choose—even when you can't know exactly what happens next.
You didn't start doing this for no reason.
Overthinking often makes sense when we understand what it has been trying to do for you.
Maybe you learned to pay close attention to other people's moods and reactions. Maybe getting things right helped you feel safe, accepted, or in control. Maybe you became the responsible one—the person who could handle things without needing much from anyone else.
Or maybe there isn't an obvious story behind it. You just know that somewhere along the way, thinking ahead, staying productive, and relying on yourself became easier than not knowing what would happen.
These patterns can make you incredibly perceptive, responsible, thoughtful, and capable.
They can also make it hard to relax, take a risk, ask for help, tolerate someone's disappointment, or simply decide what you want.
The goal isn't to get rid of the parts of you that are thoughtful and capable. It's to give you more choice about when they have to work so hard.
You may understand your anxiety really well. And still feel anxious
Many of the women I work with are highly insightful.
You may already know where some of your patterns came from. You may recognize when you're catastrophizing, overthinking, people-pleasing, or being too hard on yourself.
You might even catch yourself doing it in real time.
And still, when something activates the pattern, all that understanding can become surprisingly hard to access.
That's because anxiety isn't only something we experience through our thoughts. It can also show up in automatic emotional and physical responses—the tightness in your chest, the feeling that you need to fix something, the inability to settle, or the urge to keep thinking until you find an answer.
Sometimes understanding the pattern is the beginning of change, not the end of it.
Working with anxiety differently.
Our work is individualized. There isn't one technique I use with every person who experiences anxiety.
Sometimes we need to talk—to understand what's happening, notice patterns, question assumptions, and make connections.
Sometimes we need to slow down enough to notice what is happening underneath all the thinking.
And sometimes an old experience or deeply learned response continues to feel true even when you intellectually know things are different now.
I integrate traditional psychotherapy with EMDR and somatic approaches, including Somatic Experiencing principles. Depending on what you need, we may work with thoughts and beliefs, emotions, physical sensations, relationship patterns, past experiences, and the ways your nervous system responds automatically.
We aren't trying to make you stop thinking or stop caring.
We're helping you develop another place to stand besides the anxious thought.
A place from which you can notice what is happening, hear yourself more clearly, and decide how you want to respond.
What if you didn't have to figure everything out first?
Imagine being able to make a decision without revisiting it twenty times.
To say what you think and let someone else have their reaction.
To notice anxiety without immediately needing to solve it.
To ask for help without assuming you'll be disappointed.
To want something, go after it, and risk finding out what happens.
To make a mistake and trust yourself to deal with it.
To disappoint someone and still know you're okay.
To rest without having to earn it first.
You don't have to know exactly how things will turn out to trust yourself with what comes next.
That's a different kind of freedom.
And it's something we can work toward together.
Anxiety Therapy in Oakland & Online Throughout California
I offer individual psychotherapy for women in California.
Sessions are available in person in Oakland through Nourish Osteo & Wellness and virtually throughout California.
50-minute individual sessions
In person in Oakland
Telehealth throughout California
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